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F*ck Saving Face
Episode 138: [Step 9] How I Rewired My Relationship with My Parents in Just 15 Minutes
What happens when you return to the country your parents fled — only to find a version of home you never expected?
In this deeply personal episode, Judy Tsuei shares her journey of moving back to Taiwan, the land her parents left to build a new life. She talks about what it was like to live in a place they considered unsafe, yet where she felt seen, supported, and embraced. And she dives into the shocking truths she uncovered about her family’s past: stories of survival, loss, and resilience that shaped my identity in ways I never imagined.
For years, Judy wrestled with the weight of generational trauma, cultural expectations, and the unspoken wounds passed down through my lineage. She grew up believing certain narratives, about who we were, about where we belonged, until she lived in Taiwan and China and saw firsthand that so much of what I was told wasn’t true.
- What do you do when your sense of self shifts overnight?
- How do you navigate the weight of family secrets and generational pain?
- Can healing truly rewrite the way you see your past—and your future?
This episode is about Step 9 of How to Disappoint Your Parents in 10 Shameless Steps, focused on breaking free from inherited stories, reclaiming your identity, and learning to find belonging on your own terms. It’s about realizing that sometimes, home is where you choose to make it, not where others tell you it should be. And, the fact that healing can happen quickly.
If you’ve ever felt torn between cultures, struggled with identity, or questioned the stories you were raised with, this episode is for you.
Listen now and join me in exploring what it means to find home within yourself.
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